No. I do not think life is fair.

If life were fair, the people who carry the most pain would not also be the ones expected to carry the most responsibility. If life were fair, the people who cause harm would recognize it, repair it, and grow from it instead of leaving others to deal with the damage.

Life does not distribute experiences evenly. Some people move through the world with support, stability, and people who meet them with care. Others spend years navigating betrayal, trauma, and relationships that slowly drain the life out of them.

Fairness would mean that effort, honesty, and self-awareness are met with the same in return. But that is not how the world works. You can do the work. You can reflect, grow, communicate clearly, and try to build healthy relationships, and still find yourself standing across from someone who refuses to do any of the same.

Life is not fair in what it gives people.

But I do think there is something within our control. The ability to eventually see what is happening. The ability to stop accepting what should never have been normal. The ability to step away from what harms us, even if it takes longer than we wish it had.

Life may not be fair, but awareness changes what we tolerate. And sometimes that is the only balance we ever get.